How does the death of a child affect a family?
Losing a child is very painful and hard for a family.
Grieving parents may have a hard time meeting the needs of surviving children
Sometimes, parents quickly have another child to “replace” the child who has died—in these situations, parents may be overprotective of the new child or have a hard time bonding
Counseling may be helpful
There may be a support group in your community for parents who have lost a child
How should I explain the death of a family member or loved one to children?
Give children simple explanations at a level they can understand
Older children may be able to understand more—let them know it's normal to be curious and ask questions
Don’t compare death to going to sleep and never waking up because children may become scared of bedtime
If your child becomes very sad or withdrawn, stops taking part in activities, or acts out, have the child see a counselor for help.
Should children visit sick or dying people in the hospital?
You can ask your child's doctor whether you should allow your child to visit a severely ill or dying person, whether that is a child or adult.
Prepare children for the visit:
Explain that the person may look different but is the same person
Prepare the child for physical changes, like weight loss or gain or hair loss
Prepare children for medical equipment they may see in use
Should children attend the funeral of a loved one?
This is a personal decision. If children attend a funeral, have someone with them who can focus on their needs and let them leave if they want.
Tell children it's all right to ask questions about death and dying.
Give children a way to help. They can:
Write or draw a card
Wrap a present
Collect food, money, or toys