Many older people who are abused do not seek help for various reasons. They may feel ashamed and be reluctant to tell others about the abuse. They may be unable to tell others because the perpetrator limits phone calls or access to visitors and health care practitioners. If the perpetrator is the caregiver, older people may feel too dependent on or want to protect the perpetrator, who may also be their adult child. They may be afraid of being harmed further, of being abandoned, or of being forced into a nursing home.
Older people should never think that abuse is part of being old or dependent. Being mistreated threatens their personal dignity and sense of well-being and can even cost people their life. Family members and friends can help by maintaining close ties with an older person.
Older people who are worried about abuse can take steps to make it less likely to happen, such as the following:
Not living with someone who has a history of violent behavior or substance abuse
Keeping in touch with friends and former neighbors, especially if they have to move to a caregiver’s house
Staying connected with social and community organizations (increasing the chances that abuse, if it occurs, is noticed)
Insisting on legal advice before signing any documents related to where they will live or who controls their finances (the local Area Agency on Aging can refer people for legal help)
If older people believe they are in danger, they can call an elder abuse hotline for immediate help. Such hotlines are listed in the local phone book, usually in the Blue Pages, or can be provided by a phone operator. A list of all state laws about elder abuse and telephone numbers to call to report abuse are available at the National Center on Elder Abuse (855-500-3537 or www.ncea.acl.gov). The National Association of Area Agencies on Aging (202-872-0888 or www.n4a.org) is another good source of information and referral. If older people do not feel endangered but still want help, they can try talking about it with their doctor, social worker, or other health care practitioner.
Relatives, friends, and acquaintances have a responsibility to help if they know of or strongly suspect abuse When to suspect abuse Elder abuse refers to harm or the threat of harm to an older person by another person. Older people can be abused by having harmful things done or said to them or by having necessary things... read more , as do health care practitioners. Directly confronting the perpetrator is not recommended because it can worsen abuse. Instead, the situation should be reported. Reporting suspected or confirmed abuse or neglect is mandatory in all states if the abuse occurs in an institution and in most states if it occurs in a home. Every state has laws that protect and provide services for vulnerable, incapacitated, or disabled people. Every state also has laws protecting people who report suspected abuse from being sued for doing so. To report abuse, people can contact the following:
In most states: The state social service department (Adult Protective Services)
In a few states: The state unit on aging
For abuse within an institution: The local long-term care ombudsman's office or the state department of health
Telephone numbers for these agencies and offices in any part of the United States can be found by calling the Eldercare Locator (800-677-1116 or www.eldercare.gov) or the National Center on Elder Abuse (855-500-3537 or www.ncea.acl.gov) and giving the person's county and city of residence or zip code.
Because abuse and its effects can vary greatly, interventions need to be tailored to each person’s situation. Interventions may include the following:
Education, such as information about abuse and available options, as well as help with devising safety plans
Mental health support, such as counseling and support groups that acknowledge the role of trauma in a person's life
Long-term psychologic support for the abused person and sometimes the family
Law enforcement and legal intervention, such as arrest of the perpetrator, orders of protection, and legal advocacy
Arrangement for alternative housing, such as housing that provides safe shelter with protection from the perpetrator
Referral to services to provide basic support (such as transportation and food assistance) and reduce social isolation
More Information about Elder Abuse
The following English-language resources may be useful. Please note that THE MANUAL is not responsible for the content of these resources.
National Institute on Aging: Elder Abuse: Information and links to additional resources for older adults and caregivers regarding signs, prevention, and long-term affects of elder abuse
National Center on Elder Abuse: Guidance from the NCEA, a national resource center dedicated to the prevention of elder mistreatment, including advice and resources to professionals, researchers, advocates, and families